although i think the descendants seems to be a bit over hyped, i do think that it’s actually a good representation of the complicated nature of grief. it’s not an easy thing to understand or to know how to handle when life treats you to it’s scariest subject matter. i remember the morning of my mothers funeral, my brother asked me if we were supposed to wear black…why should we know? oftentimes movies represent grief as black and white: somebody dies in your family, you are sad. but it’s much more than that. it’s all the feelings you had for this person when they were alive, and a fast forward reconciliation of what they will be to you for the rest of your life.
i liked the idea that george clooney’s character didn’t know what to do and he needed his daughter to guide him. his need to somehow face his own emotions while trying to stay strong to guide his daughters through theirs is not an easy task. it’s a tough business, grieving, and it’s certainly nice to see it reflected through a more realistic lens.